But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness” (James 3:17-18 NIV).
With heavy heart I requested and pointed my hand, “Please reserve this stall for towing our pick up truck smashed by SUV.”
A lady lashed and screamed, “You are foreigner here and you dictate me what to do!”
Offensive words followed (I cannot replay) while she walked away from me. I responded loudly, “Please forgive me. So sorry for offending you. We are having difficulties here.”
Silence. Intense prayers about love and forgiveness kept hitting on in my heart and mind. Tears flooded my eyes looking at our damaged vehicle, shaken precious husband, and lady with burning anger.
Scripture hidden in my heart hits me like a brick, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God” (Matthew 5:9).
Peacemaking is not always popular. Some people prefer to fight for what they believe in. The glory of battle is in the hope of winning, but someone must be a loser. The glory of peacemaking belongs to our Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ.
These are the things that I learned from serving and interacting with needy and angry people for decades.
Prayerfully know the person’s background. Remember everybody has their own struggles.
Observe the person’s spiritual maturity, seek opportunity to pray and stir growth.
Deal with less word and extend more intensifying prayer for your accuser or opponent.
Be firm in maintaining a healthy boundary without compromising God’s truth.
Do not retaliate by gossiping or putting down your opposition. God knows about you and the other person’s motives and intention, let Jesus be your judge and vindicator (see Romans 12:12-21).
Every relational struggle I dealt with deepened my joyful experience of our Lord’s love, forgiveness, compassion, and respect for the person’s weaknesses. Only the Holy Spirit can ease my struggles and change the other person’s heart. Why quarrel?
Are your tempted to escalate the conflict or fan the fire of discord? How you handle your relational conflict reflects the depth of your Christ-like character.
Careful, winsome speech and wise, loving words are the seeds of peace. God loves peacemakers. Attempt to be a peacemaker with God’s help and you’ll be amazed!
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